“I doubt if I can marry such a woman because they can push one into armed robbery in order to meet their inordinate demands”
Faith Aghaeze, Abuja
They come with varying prices ranging from N30,000 to N300,000; they are said to be exotic, classy and elegant; they are the trendy “Brazilian’’ hair extensions.
However, the high price of these hair extensions makes curious observers to wonder what it will cost a man to marry a Brazilian lady if it takes that much to buy a Brazilian weave-on.
Such reservations notwithstanding, it has become a common sight nowadays especially in Abuja to see young ladies proudly flaunting these curling imports from Brazil at offices, churches and parties, among others.
Nevertheless, the root of the matter remains the question of who bears the burden of the trendy appearance, as men and women alike give different reasons, either in favour of the trendy “Brazilian’’ hairdo or against it.
Mrs. Brigdet Idukoya , a housewife, says she wears the “Brazilian’’ hairstyle, even though her husband pays for it.
“If my man cannot afford the weave-on which costs N150,000, I can save up money for the variant that costs N35, 000.
“However, women hardly pay for that stuff with their money; men do pay directly or indirectly. If the woman is not bold enough to demand for money for the `Brazilian’ hair, she may collect it bit-by-bit under various guises. It is all about class; it is all about the quality it comes with. You can use the hair in different styles month by month and people will not notice that you are wearing same hair,’’ says Bridget
Observers, men in particular, note that while some men are willing preys in the women’s quest to look chic, others believe that spending so much on hair care is by all means irritating.
Mr. Reuben Asikoko, a civil servant, insists that it is somewhat unthinkable for a woman to demand for a sum that is above his monthly salary just to fix a hairstyle.
He argues that ladies who demand money for such frivolous things would never make good wives, as they would always put their husbands under immense financial pressure.
“I doubt if I can marry such a woman because they can push one into armed robbery in order to meet their inordinate demands. Especially in this Abuja, that woman like expensive things .If a man discovers during courtship that his partner has a liking for exotic and very expensive wears, he can lose interest,’’ Reuben added.
However, this is not to suggest that virtually all the women are in support of spending so much on trendy fashion – clothes, , bags, shoes, jewellery and hairstyles.
Some women believe that the money spent on expensive fashion items could be used for more beneficial things that could aid the growth of the society and families in particular.
For instance, Miss Bimbo Adegbiti, a tailor insists that she would rather spend her money on charity than buying “Brazilian’’ weaveon which is “unnecessarily expensive.
“I don’t wear `Brazilian’ hair, it is quite expensive. I have better things to do with my money and even if I had all the money, I will rather donate it to charity homes. I am also not ready to allow men buy it for me because such arrangements often attract a lot of compromises,’’ she says.
However, Miss zainab Suleiman , a public servant, says that she regularly buys “Brazilian’’ hair with her own money because of its quality.
She underscores the economic wisdom in buying and using “Brazilian’’ hair because of its long-lasting quality, which the cheaper brands do not have.
“I buy `Brazilian’ hair with my money and sometimes; I receive it as gifts from friends. I go for it because I can wear it for six months by just restyling it instead of getting a new weave-on,’’ says Zainab.
For mrs. Nneka Njosi, a trader, it is equal to an act of irresponsibility for a woman to demand for such huge amount from her husband to fix her hair.
She insists that she is aware of her husband’s financial capabilities, adding that she will, therefore, never make any strangulating demands from him, all in the name of belonging to the Abuja chic.
Njosi, nonetheless, concedes that some rich men see nothing wrong in buying such expensive hair gear for their spouses.
“I wore the `Brazilian’ hairstyle once when I was single; now, I am married and my husband will find it ludicrous if I demand money for such hairdos. I am a very reserved person and so is my husband; we both see such practices as pure vanity. However my sister’s husband doesn’t see anything wrong in buying a N200, 000 hair kit for her because he has the money,’’ she says.
Such comments notwithstanding, some observers believe that importers of “Brazilian’’ hair and other expensive hairstyles are just exploiting some Abuja women who have a wild craving for fashionable looks.
Mr. Sunny Mbah, an Engineer, belongs to that particular school of thought.
He underscores the need for women to realise the fact that some things mean little or nothing to their physical and spiritual well-being.
“It is madness; some sharp businessmen are just taking advantage of the fashion craze among our Abuja women. Until the day our women discover that such hairdo are not really for their comfort but for the enrichment of the importers, they will remain exploited.
“Much that I support women looking good, I cannot buy disposable items for such a huge amount,’’ Mbah says.
Sharing the same opinion , Mr. peter Adinoi , a businessman, insists that women should spend what they currently spend on expensive hairstyles on issues which can affect their lives positively.
He stresses that the fact that he could not even identify the “Brazilian’’ hairstyle if he comes across one simply means that there is nothing so spectacular about it.
“The point I am making is that only the women who fix the `Brazilian’ weave-on are those who are able to identify the hair.’’
Adinoi says that if a woman insists on fixing the “Brazilian’’ hair for fiestas such as Christmas at all costs, such obsession could mar the family’s happiness, particularly if her husband is not well-off.
Interestingly, some men do not share similar sentiments.
Mr. Femi Ayinla , a technician, insists that he could pamper his wife with anything she wants if the money is there.
“If the `Brazilian’ hairdo is the only thing that will make my wife happy, I will give her the money she needs to fix it.
However, I cannot afford to pay for such hairstyles now because of my meager income,’’ he adds.
Mr kemi olufemi, a civil servant, also shares a similar viewpoint.
He insists that no amount is too much for him to spend in efforts to make his spouse to look good, adding, however, that such expenditure depends on the level of his income at any point in time.
“I run my house democratically; if my wife decides to fix `Bra-